I decided I am going to treat myself on the run up to the wedding.

The great gals in 4th Avenue Beauty in Ballsbridge have the pleasure of taking care of me.

Decide to go for the back wax! I am alllllll for human topiary, back hair is wrong wrong wrong. I am also getting the nails done. Those babies are gonna dazzle! And lastly to help the ole black heads I’m going for a course of Oxygen facials. Oxygen is going to be blasted in to my skin and do all kinds of amazing things like reduce black heads and increase collagen and elasticity. Can’t wait to see the results. I’ve also opted to have a full body Swedish massage. Going to have all the stress beaten out of me, perhaps I should have the pain killers on standby!

I’ve now got this image of the therapist standing with a pressure washer getting each black head at a time ! I hope it’s not painful!

Of course I’ve decided to do all this as the other half has completely blown the budget on suits and got (in my opinion) a very so so suit which is expensive and makes him look like his father! So what’s good for the goose is good for this gander!

On the big day – I’m getting the nails done, and my last facial. I’m going to have a total me day….. champers and strawberries here I come !

It’ll be too soon.

So that wine offer I got in Tesco with the 25% off turned out to be a small drama. The manager who ordered it for me upped and left … of course I only found this out after I called them up and asked where my order was… months later… Thankfully another nice manager man checked this out and was able to re order my booze.

And this evening I only find out that the manager from the hotel upped and left 2 weeks ago. I only find this out after I contact him.

Seriously people – its called continuity of customer service. Nothing annoys me more than getting bad customer service. Now I have to go to the hotel and find out who I am going to have to deal with now

Well pants to that !

I feel so bad for my boyfriend/fiance/better half.

It’s ironic that he has been openly gay for almost half of his adult life to everyone including his family, so you would assume they would be accepting of the topic of having a son who is gay instead of a gay son that one day would settle down.

I think it’s important to distinguish something here.

For me, a son or daughter who happens to be gay would mean that they are treated the same as any other child in the family. Homosexuality is not even an issue, instead its absorbed and integrated as an enhancement to the families strength and diversity.

A gay son or gay daughter on the other hand is again in my opinion, to me it’s the idea of homosexuality that is used to identify or label a quality of a child before anything else.  To me it screams that a family possibly has a hard time in letting go of a child’s homosexuality and it causes family dramas and rifts.

SO as I said he has been an out gay man for over half of his life, had a long term partner for 16 years before me, so one would assume that at some stage of their lives, his parents would have an idea that at some stage my son would settle down and start a family (In what ever you context you may believe a “Family” could be).

But it would appear that it’s an issue. Granted his parents are in their 70′s and granted they are from a different generation with their own moral beliefs that they have to wrestle with, but I still can’t get to grips that they have a problem with their son’s happiness before their own convictions. I find it hard to believe that they instead have opted to fly out of the country on possibly one of their son’s most important day’s  of his life. I find it incredible that they asked their own son to book the flights for them to leave on the same day as the wedding.

I don’t have any doubts that his parents love him, but it seems to me to be cruel to treat a child in this way. I should also add it’s not a great way to treat a new member joining the family. I’ve my own moral ideas to wrestle with. Do I say anything ? Do I rock the boat and stand up for my man and challenge his parents beliefs? DO I class them as selfish, or brave for standing up for their beliefs and say good for you .. you don’t believe in gay marriage and you don’t want to attend and support it, then fair play to you. Should I confront them and demand their attendance – all the while they sulk and hate the day and fun that’s in it, and add a somber mood to all the events? Or vice versa should we be grateful that their are not going to attend for the sake of it and let others who genuinely want to enjoy, embrace and celebrate the day with us both.

It’s a complex situation.. What would you do?

I’ve put off posting a blog for a while, there was some paper work that had to be done with the registry office which if wasn’t done correctly would mean that we’d have to reschedule for another day.

My other half was born up in the weee north so he had to have a birth certificate with an Apostle Stamp on the back, of course we were told this months in advance but sure didn’t he forget and it meant that we had to reschedule to go back in to the office (together – what a waste of my time) and hand in the one piece of paper. We were lucky because apparently the good folk in Milton Keynes in England had to find the man that signed his original birth cert and validate that it was done correctly. What a waste.

Anyways. Paper work aside we are all steam ahead. It’s hard to believe that in2 months time I will be a married man.

Some posts that will come shortly will include the following 1) Acceptance of attitudes to gay weddings, 2) hotels, 3) Suits 4) Invite list 5) Music to watch the gays go by 6) Stag parties 7) DIY weddings Guest book dilemma 9) Diets

So much to do.. and I’m on the final hurdle.

Oh my gay word florists work damn hard. I got a tiny glimpse of the workings of the floral world today and I have to tell ya folks, it’s a labour of love.

I for one have a new found respect for those who have anything to do with floral arrangements.